Loves Initiator in Marriage

Loves Initiator in Marriage

Who does God call the initiator of love?

         

Loves Initiator in Marriage.

Women have a tremendous ability to love.

But God gives the husband

the role of “Initiator of Love”.

It is interesting that God gives this instruction

to husbands in the form of a command.

  

God also defines this love.

A husband is to love his wife

as Christ loved the church.

All that a man is and is to become, His dreams

and aspirations for his life, are to be laid

down for his wife, yet without losing his identity.

Christ laid down His life for us.

 He did it without seeing any love from us.

“While we were yet sinners Christ died for us.”

Many looked to Jesus to become

a king and rule over His people.

Jesus instead demonstrated His love

so people would follow Him.

This is the reason “we love God

because He first loved us”.

We must not forget “God is Love”.

Every expression of love

reveals a facet of who God is.

So when God ordained the husband to be

the spiritual head of the wife and family…

The husband became the responsible provider

and the initiator of love in this human relationship.

The task of leading, providing and initiating love

can only be accomplished by God’s enablement.

The husband who finds his model and strength in

the Lord will find strength to be his wife’s protector.

His character will be her boast and pride.

And he will live in such a way that his wife will find in

him the haven for which the heart of a woman truly longs.

 When anger is generated in the

marriage, the wise husband will…

Put into practice Ephesians 4.

Speak truthfully; be honest.

In your anger don’t sin.

Be sure you set a time for issues to

be resolved, don’t let them linger.

 

Assault the issues not the person.

Use positive words, affirm confidence in the

others person’s ability to reach the best solution.

Remember the Holy Spirit is listening.

Bitterness, anger, malice and

the like have no value

 – keep them in the garbage.

Be kind and compassionate to one another,

forgiving each other,

just as in Christ God forgave you.

Husbands you were made in the image of God.

The image of love.

Just act like it.

The rewards are worth it.

Scripture Reading NIV

Ephesians 5:22-33

22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."  32 This is a profound mystery — but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Ephesians 4:25-32 NIV

25 Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body. 26 "In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold. 28 He who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with his own hands, that he may have something to share with those in need.

29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.